Do you recall the smell of your grandmother’s kitchen after a long day of baking cookies and pies or remember when your Dad taught you how to shoot a basketball? Do you remember all those fun, family vacations spent together in the warm summer months or the nights sitting around the campfire in the crisp autumn air, roasting marshmallows? These are memories that each of us have of a loved one in our life that are often forgotten at the time of ones passing.
Funerals are always overshadowed with great sadness, loss and grief. The Talk of a Lifetime program helps families move away from the grief aspect of death and move towards the memories and happy times spent with loved ones. It guides families through conversation about how they want to be remembered. It can make a difference of a lifetime. In this article, we will discuss what this conversation guide is, how to start a conversation with your loved ones about a life well lived and the things that matter most, and how you will honor and remember your loved ones.
What is The Talk of a Lifetime?
The Talk of a Lifetime is a free brochure guide that provides questions and direction to encourage families to have conversations about life and what matters most. These discussions can help families make important decisions about how they wish to remember and honor the lives of their loved ones. This program allows people to have a meaningful memorialization of their loved one and helps them cope with their loss and take steps in their journey of healing.
How to Start “The Conversation” and How to Honor Your Loved One
Sharing stories with those who matter most isn’t just important today; it will be especially significant when it’s time to commemorate a life. This program encourages families to share stories of their childhood, school and college days, young love and marriage, personal growth and career aspirations, becoming a parent and so much more. In addition, sharing memories of special hobbies or places visited can give family members a sense of understanding of someone’s life and personality. Learning how someone became who they are today and knowing how to honor their life when they are gone is most important. It can surely help you to get to know your loved one in a new and different way.
The brochure provided encourages families to discuss hopes, dreams, accomplishments and values. Deep down, most of us want to know that we, in some way, made a difference in this world – that we mattered to someone and that after we die, we will be fondly remembered by those who knew and cared for us. This brochure will give the tools to spark these conversations between family members. We have included a sampling below of the questions found in the brochure. We hope these questions will help spark a conversation with those you hold near to your heart.
•What was the one piece of advice you received from your parents or grandparents that you never forgot?
•Where did you and your friends hang out when you were in high school?
•What is your proudest achievement?
•How would you like your family and friends to commemorate your life when you die? Is there something special you would like us to do for you?
There are no rules for how to have the talk, only that you make time to do so. Everyone has a story to tell and there’s always something more that we can learn about the one-of-a-kind lives our family members have had. Nowadays, families have more options for memorializing their loved ones at the end of life.
The Talk of a Lifetime program is inspiring and encourages open conversation among peers and family. When your family must make important decisions about how you wish to remember and honor your loved one, these shared reflections may help honor a life well lived and at the same time, give you, your family and other friends a chance to reminisce and say goodbye. We also encourage you to watch the video about this program- this can be found here (insert video link). We hope it inspires you to have The Talk of a Lifetime with your loved ones. Should you or a family member have further questions about this program, please feel free to contact us directly for my guidance and information.