How to Write an Obituary February 18, 2021

How to Write an Obituary

After the death of a loved one, family members have many final decisions to deal with. With so much to process, relax in knowing that writing an obituary does not have to be hard.


What Is An Obituary?


What is an obituary? An obituary is used to inform people of a recent passing, to share memories of the deceased, and to share the details of the funeral services. Often, those who are closest to the deceased, like family, write obituaries. Funeral homes can help write obituaries or offer referrals to organizations that help with writing. 


Obituaries are posted in local newspapers, on local television stations, on social media sources, religious bulletins, funeral home sites, and more. Find the best fit for you.


What To Write In An Obituary


Whether you have written an obituary in the past or are new to the concept, it is good to know that, with a few simple tips, obituaries are easy to start. There are some healthy ways to relieve the stress you may face at this time.


Things to include in an obituary:

  • The name of the person who passed away – You can consider adding a common nickname used among their acquaintances. 
  • Their date of birth or age – Although the chances are low, using the date of birth comes with some risks like identity scams.
  • A brief description of them – This can include who they were as a person, interests, and hobbies.
  • People in their lives – This can include their spouse, parents, grandparents, children, aunts, uncles, and friends.
  • Funeral information – This can include the date, the time, and the location.
  • Make it personal – It is a good reminder to say as much as you can with as few words as you can. Make your words memorable and precise. Take the time to add a sentence about flower arrangements or how to send condolences such as cards.


Not sure how to start? Write down the key points you want people to remember. You might find it helpful to reach out to their friends and family to help write the obituary or to share stories.


Things To Remember As You Write An Obituary


  • Write when you are rested – Try to write at times you feel rested and when you are able to concentrate. It might help to have one other person or a small group assist you in writing. 
  • Check for mistakes – Before you submit the obituary, check for simple errors. Otherwise, ask those that you ask to publish to briefly go over your writing to check for errors.
  • Be careful not to add too much personal information – It is important to put focus on bringing out genuine character in your loved ones obituary. Be careful not to share too much information as this could lead to potential scams.


If you are not certain on how to start, ask for assistance from family, a trusted friend, or a reliable organization. 


I Have More Questions


Grieving is difficult. There are ways to help reduce the amount of stress you endure. We are here to support you during this difficult time. If you have questions about obituaries, contact us at (651) 228-1006. 


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