Do you feel stuck in grief? Maybe you just can’t seem to get over a loss. Has it been years and your grief still stops you in your tracks? If you say yes you may be stuck and need help in processing your grief.
Last week’s blog (you can read it here) talked about using the stages of grief to create a road map to healing. We are going to look again at the stages of grief to help identify where you may be stuck in your grief. I will quickly reference the 5 stages of grief as a starting point.
5 Stages of Grief
Stuck in your Grief? Use the 5 stages of grief to find out.
We can also use the stages of grief as a guide for finding out where we are stuck. It’s always so important for me to make it loud and clear that everyone grieves differently. If you do not experience the “stages” of grief from top to bottom or at all it is not to say something is “wrong” with you.
Where are you stuck in your grief?
Some of the answers may be clear that YES I felt anger, yes I feel depressed. For others you may have to sit down and think deeper, maybe even write it out. You may find that you have felt feelings that would fall into many of the stages but when you arrive at acceptance you realize that you simply cannot accept the loss. Not being able to do so is a clue in where you may be stuck.
Questions to ask yourself
- Have you let yourself feel your feelings?
- Do you have a place to vent those feelings?
- Can you have an open conversation about your grief with a safe person?
- Do you avoid talking about or thinking about your loss at all?
- Do you feel as though you have come to the acceptance stage of grief?
Once you have answered the questions listed above it should help you get a better idea of where you may be stuck in your grief. The answers to the questions can be very revealing about where you need further healing.
Have you ever sat and thought deeply about your grief?
Have you felt all those feelings and processed and asked yourself why you feel that way?
Feelings of anger are common when dealing with grief and loss although it is also common to try
to temper the anger out of guilt. You may feel that you don’t have a right or a good reason to feel the way that you do.
If we don’t acknowledge our feelings and don’t take the time to process them they can sit in the body and have a deep impact.
Using the stages of grief to pinpoint where you may be stuck is a nice starting point. If you do feel stuck seek out additional help. Support groups, counseling or therapy are all a piece of full healing.